I am so very often asked how I have so much on my plate and don’t seem to be stressed, and seem to maintain a positive attitude. My answer is always the same. I do get stressed; every
single day. I may have learned better ways to manage it if it doesn’t show. 🙂 I am so happy to be publishing a post sharing my ideas to possibly give inspiration on how you can reduce
your stress levels as well. I know it can be done, like everything in life, you just need to be intent on managing stress.


As life goes on, similar to everyone else, I encounter my own share of HUGE stresses such as health problems, surgeries, worries about my kids, living so far away from people I grew up with, deaths in family and so on. Actually stress doesn’t have to be a result of a bad event at all. Happy moments like starting a new job, getting married, pregnancies, moving can be just as stressful as bad events, Today however I want to focus on daily stressors.

Just to give you an idea from myself, my daily life is filled with fast-paced activities that are potentially stressful. I am a multi-tasker, constantly busy with a couple things. My three kids go to three separate schools, in locations at opposite ends of the town. I do a ridiculous amount of driving, in fact we joke with hubby that we should have a second home near one of the schools to rest a couple hrs in between pick up times. If only haha.

There is constant heavy traffic I deal with, and when I pick the kids up their activities start. When I get home, after making sure kids are done with their homework and everyone is fed, instead of unwinding I usually start my blog related work. ( which I enjoy so much) In between I do my best to squeeze fitness, my hobbies, friends, and social life. Whew even writing this makes me tired, and ready for a nap that I can’t take LOL.

Now I am not complaining, not even for a bit. All these things are my own choices, things that give me joy. When responsibilities pile up, and you want to give your 100% to all of them, it can get stressful nevertheless.

Here is how I manage stress in my life, and my top ten tips for a more positive outlook.



1) Stay Active and Be Outdoors 

Finding a way to stay active is one of my biggest tools to reduce my stress levels. I try to stay consistent with getting out and about. Even when I am not on track with my gym schedule, I make it a priority to go outdoors, do some exercises, run a couple miles, or take a fast paced walk. Being one with nature, and breathing the fresh air really help manage stress.


2) Include Natural Stress Relievers in Your Daily Routine

I was introduced to RESCUE products  by my mom a couple years ago. My parents eat clean, exercise daily, and my mom knows way more than I do when it comes to natural products. ( I am forever trying to learn) I find RESCUE products at my local New Seasons store, and have been a customer for a long while.

I am very wary of what I put in my body. The facts that RESCUE products are completely natural/homeopathic, have been formulated by Dr.Bach about a hundred years ago, and that they are even safe to give to my kids ( always confirm with your pediatrician) are all reasons I’ve been a fan.

Lately I’ve been into RESCUE PASTILLES. I take one of these yummy candies with original flower extracts before sleep to calm my mind, and get ready for a deeper sleep. You can also take them before exams, during stressful events, anytime you need stress relief. The pastilles come in a handy can with a cool pressure opening system.

Have you ever used a natural remedy for stress?

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3) Slow Down, Breathe and Meditate ( any way that works)

I am an over thinker. My mind is always busy with ideas, projects, things I want to do. I really need to be determined to slow down every single day.

This is a great time to breathe purposefully, being aware of inhaling & exhaling long, deep breaths, and hopefully lowering my usually fast beating pulse at least for 10 minutes each day. You can think of this as meditation, done any way that works for you. You can also practice some regular meditation techniques if you can’t slow down just by sitting, and breathing.

What I do is sit at a bench outdoors, watch a beautiful view, and completely turn of my phone. It’s great to clear the mind.

4) Get a Massage

Massage has a lot of relaxation, and health benefits. It’s a great way to target deep muscle layers. It has the potential to help with headaches, sports injuries, sleep problems, and of course stress. One of my goals for this year is to fit more massage in my schedule.


5) Be Silly and Laugh As Much and As Out Loud As you Can

I think this is the BEST tip I have for stress management. Don’t take yourself too seriously!! Whatever position, education, or career you have in life doesn’t matter; you can keep the child inside you alive. This is my number one way to reduce my daily stress.

We all have unpleasant things happen to us, I think choosing a positive attitude over negativity helps so much at how we deal with those challenges. For instance many years ago when I was about to have a major surgery, although being out of this world stressed, I dealt with the situation wishing, and expecting the best outcome. That outlook helped me so much!

Be silly with your kids, laugh a lot, and try your best to enjoy the moment.

6) Have a Support Group of Family and Friends that focus on Joy of Life

This is very closely tied to #5. Having a good support group of family & friends you share what life throws you with is immensely important. It’s not easy to find people who not only are there for you when you are down, but also are there with you celebrating your success’s.  Keep the people who are happy for your happiness close, and keep those away who bring consistent negativity to you trying to bring you down.

I try my best to be a good friend, and daughter, and in return I think I’ve been gifted with really strong family ties, and great friendships. Some of my best friends live thousands of miles away, even overseas, but we always find a way to connect, and when we meet we pick up right where we left. Go the extra mile to reach out to people who matter.

7) Be Kind to Others 

Show random kindness to strangers, support other people’s dreams, and believe that there is enough love, success, happiness to go around for all of us. This way of acting, and thinking reduces stress so much, and makes you feel all warm, and fuzzy inside as a bonus. 🙂


8) Spend Quality Time With Your Pet 

It’s researched and proven that people with pets have lower blood pressure, and cope with stress better. I read that playing with a pet elevates serotonin and dopamine which helps you relax and calm down. We have two dogs, and I make it a daily priority to spend quality time with them. Above I am with our puppy Emma. <3 Pets really are so good for the soul!


 9) Keep a Journal

Writing down your thoughts, and feelings in a journal is a wonderful stress relief tool. I always get surprised when I write in mine, and read my thoughts, and feelings about the day, or certain issues. Sometimes even things I didn’t notice bother me come up. Putting things in writing gives you perspective & helps you sort through your feelings. When your feelings are not bottled up inside but instead out in the open, it is very liberating.

10) Give Yourself Time to Relax Before Sleep 

I can’t claim I do this every single night. Sometimes when I am in the middle of writing a post, or watching my favorite TV show I fall asleep and my husband wakes me up. There are other times hubby, and me are laying down on the couch watching a movie, and we fall asleep.

Still, I try my best to consistently have a before bedtime routine to my best ability. I light up a candle, take a RESCUE PASTILLE, drink a nice herbal tee, read a good book ( usually mysteries), and calm down before I lay down in my bed to sleep.

I hope these suggestions will be helpful for you to manage stress in your life as well. Don’t forget that you are at your best when you are not stressed. <3

What are some of your stress management techniques and tips? I would love to hear all about them.

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  • Tulay Ban

    Awesome suggestions Elif! I tottaly agree with all. Only one i have never tried is keeping a diary. Positive attitude, smiling the first thing you do when you wake up and surrounding yourself with smart positive people. That’s my motto, dear friend!

    • Theboxqueen

      Tulay even if you can take 5 minutes to keep a journal once every couple days it’s really great to slow down, and notice your feelings. I totally recommend it. I practice all these suggestions myself, and benefit so much from them. Happy to know you agree and apply them too. :-)) And ditto on having upbeat, positive people around. <3 XOXO, Elif

  • Sibel Gultekin

    I fight stress the same way. Fitness, friends, tea and breathing techniques are my favorites.

    • Theboxqueen

      All help so much with stress. 🙂 Have a lovely night my dear. XOXO, Elif

  • Mai Tran

    I think having a dog will automatically keep one out of stress.

    • Theboxqueen

      The unconditional love of animals help so much with stress. 🙂 XOXO, Elif

  • Cheryl

    Wonderful post! I think I tried a RESCUE calming spray years ago in grad school; the Pastille sounds great and I will definitely be on the lookout for them. Another tip that I practice is having gratitude- at the end of the day thinking of three things that I was grateful for that day. 🙂

    • Theboxqueen

      Cheryl what an amazing tip gratitude is. I also believe in the importance of gratitude. Being grateful for the love and all the things that make us happy every day is such a lovely feeling. Try the pastilles, I do recommend them. ( They taste yummy too 🙂 RESCUE does have a lot of great products. I started with the drops that you put into water years ago (first product I ever tried), and use the pearls as well sometimes. So happy you enjoyed the post dear. XOXO, Elif

  • Exercise, yoga and being outside are the things that help me manage stress. Thank you for the other suggestions! I’m going to have to try the Pastille too!

    Doused In Pink

    • Theboxqueen

      The Pastilles are great. I am taking one as we speak. (I usually take them before bedtime) Happy you found some new ideas. 🙂 Happy Tuesday. XOXO, Elif

  • Daily Express

    These are excellent tips, Elif. I especially love “be silly” and “be outdoors.” It’s funny how such simple things can make such a difference!

    Gina- On the Daily Express

    • Theboxqueen

      Being silly and keeping the child inside you alive is one of the best tips I have for stress I think 🙂 You are so right, seemingly simple things really help us with stress and let us be a better/happier version of ourselves. Always fun to chat Gina! XOXO, Elif

  • Carylee

    Aww – all great tips, and how fun are these photos! I totally have to let my mind relax before I can fall asleep! Lately listening to the ocean on the white noise app has been allowing me to do just that! Carylee | more pieces of me

    • Theboxqueen

      Carylee love the listening to white noise app suggestion. I should look into that. I need to have this relaxation time otherwise my mind at night would be all over the place LOL. Thanks for saying hi dear. Happy weekend. XOXO, Elif

  • Erika Baier Littlewood

    These are fantastic tips! I especially love #8 – my dogs are my babies (and still my babies even though I have a real one now, lol). 🙂 Thanks for sharing!

    xoxo, Erika

    • Theboxqueen

      My Pug Daisy was my first child. We got her during graduate school. Then we had kids, and now Emma is like my 4th child LOL. Totally agree they stay our babies. Thanks for stopping by dear, always so fun to hear from you. XOXO, Elif

  • Great tips! I find a massage is a great induldgence – always helps me relax and unwind. I got them during pregnancy, they were sooo good! Special pregnancy massages were the best.

    Away From The Blue

    • Theboxqueen

      Massages are the best. Talking about them wants me get one right about now in the day, it’s about 4 pm here and I feel exhausted LOL. I do remember pregnancy massages and they were so fab! Thanks Mica, and happy weekend!! XOXO, Elif

  • I agree 100% about spending time with your pets to relieve stress….there is something so calming about animals and their unconditional love! Thanks for sharing about RESCUE. I haven’t heart of this before…sounds like I could use it at bedtime since it is sooooo hard for me to fall asleep and settle in.

    • Theboxqueen

      I am the exact same way Shanna. I feel like some kind of a night owl, as without a routine I can’t fall asleep, or settle daily either. Rescue pastilles really help, and they have so many other options all natural as well. Spending time with my dogs is the BEST. Such a deep, amazing love. Thanks for stopping by lovely lady. Have the best weekend!! XOXO, Elif

  • Maria do Carmo Sarmento

    Helpful reading, for sure! I don’t have any pets but I am moving with my family from Portugal to the US next summer; wondering if it would help the kids settling down if we had a pet!

    • Theboxqueen

      I think after you move, and settle down a bit, having a pet would help the kids adjust quicker. Pets are so great to create a warm, and familiar home environment I think. 🙂 Best of luck with your move. That sounds so exciting!! XOXO, Elif

  • Starla

    So many awesome, awesome tips! I often just sit with my animals and I love it so much. Theres something about that never ending love that they give you! I love your colorful outfit- I have the same exact Nike’s so you have wonderful taste! 😉

    • Theboxqueen

      Yes Starla, it’s such an unconditional love the animals give us that it is humbling and super heartwarming at the same time. LOVE them!! Those Nike’s are fab right? :-)) Enjoy yours lovely lady! <3 XOXO, Elif

  • Courtney Bella

    ok first of all LOVE the nikes… second of all I’ve found that for stress, depression and just any kind of “down” getting up and taking my kids on a jog or walk in the nice weather really does help.

    • Theboxqueen

      Those are my favorite running shoes haha, LOVE the color. :-)) Thanks dear. Spending any time with my kids have the same effect on me. They just bring joy to everything. Happy Friday. XOXO, Elif

  • ADA

    What a great post. Thanks so much for sharing Elif. You look just as beautiful and natural in your work-out clothes as you do when you are dolled up!

    Enjoy the weekend! <3 Ada.

    • Theboxqueen

      Very welcome Ada dear, so happy you liked the post. You are so sweet to say that, looking more natural feels great too. 🙂 Happy Friday. XOXO, Elif

  • Courtney Bella

    another way is to do breathing techniques that’s what seems to work with me 🙂

    • Theboxqueen

      Breathing techniques are amazing I agree. I wish I was more aware of my breathing even more. Thanks for saying hi. XOXO, Elif

  • Great ideas! Right now I’m working on meditating. I have a mind that flits from one thing to another. I have great difficulty focusing on just one thing. Meditation helps with that, and I believe it’s good for me. It has definitely helped with my stress by making me emotionally stronger and prepared for whatever comes my way.
    Thanks for sharing. Happy Sharefest! I hope you have a lovely weekend.

    • Theboxqueen

      Welcome to TheBoxQueen Robin! I also agree meditation helps a lot with stress, and focus. Due to all responsibilities, things to do my mind is at a million things as well. Hope you had a lovely week. XOXO, Elif